How Love Helps Me Live Abundantly

I had a tendency to find myself trapped in my thoughts, especially during times of sleep deprivation after my son was born. As someone who naturally leans towards anxiety, negative thinking and spiraling became a constant presence, even amidst the overwhelming love and joy I felt for my son. It was a conflicting mix of emotions, coexisting within the circle of life.

However, once I addressed my sleep situation (because there’s nothing long-term to be done before addressing this first), I embarked on a journey of self-awareness and growth that unleashed an undeniable power within me.

I did not know one could literally choose their own thoughts. I didn’t have to lean into the negative ones. I didn’t have to focus on bad. So, I started with basics:

• I stopped watching, reading, and listening to the news.

• I cut out gossip.

And then, I really was putting myself in a mental state that was easy to maintain. A kind that enables you to really conquer obstacles and rise above challenges. Now, I aspire to offer the same transformative experience to all mothers and parents who experience similar waves of anxiety and stress. This blog is dedicated to them.

I will share how I have not only learned to cope with conflicting emotions of unwavering love and intense stress but also how I thrive and utilize every ounce of my being to succeed, even on the toughest days. Through my experiences, I hope to inspire and empower others to embrace their own journeys of self-discovery, finding strength and resilience amidst the rollercoaster of parenthood.

Love Needs Space

Yep. The love.

The love I felt for my firstborn was instant when he was born. But the love for my second didn’t, and this worried me. In that first week postpartum, I waited. I waited for the rush of love to come running up my veins and out of my heart. But it didn’t come instantly. The worry I’d had about not loving my second the same as my first was real.

I was worried that something was really wrong.

Turns out, I just hadn’t had the time and energy to feel that abundance and flood of love straight away. 

My mind was all over the place: I had to mentally process the fact I had an emergency c-section and feel the excruciating pain from it; the worry for my firstborn was constant as I wondered how he was coping without me; I barely slept the first few days and we all know how that affects you. I had plenty of alone time but it was spent overthinking rather than enjoying — because you’re more susceptible to this kind of thinking during periods of change and disruption.

But once I realised this, this is what I did:

• I gave up my negative thinking and put out trust that the love would come.

• I practiced gratitude.

And when that love came when my second was around one week old, I laughed and cried. When I was physically a little stronger. When I’d had a decent stretch of sleep. When I’d had some space to think positively. When I made room for love, when I proactively set up a space for it, that’s when I had it pour into him. My second baby, utterly perfect.

Somehow, I found never-ending love for both of them where I didn’t think it possible to squeeze anymore in. My heart just got bigger. My capacity just expanded like one expands their comfort zone. Turns out, that’s all it is about — adjusting to change and going with it.

Think Abundantly

“Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into.” – Wayne Dyer

It just keeps on coming and giving. The more I focus on it, the more I feel it. The more I embrace it, the louder it gets. Sometimes it’s overwhelming and it sends me to tears, like right now as I type.

I never have bad days because every seemingly bad day gets good with good thinking. It’s really all about perspective.

Love is like an infinite amount of fuel. When you need more, it’s not even a question. It’s because I love that I take a leading role in my life. It’s because of love that I am there for my kids. It’s because of love I own 2 businesses. It’s because of that deliberate, decided on love that I create my own circumstances. And anything seemingly bad comes from a lack of abundance in my thinking. Once I turn that around, I find my good, my lessons, my growth.

By unleashing this abundance where some may think none should exist, I’m able to surpass goals that just don’t seem possible to get. I have manifested money where there really seemed like there would be none. I have manifested resolving arguments. I have lovingly trusted and I have received.

My Ultimate Goal

“It’s your unlimited power to care and to love that can make the biggest difference in the quality of your life.” — Tony Robbins

I want to pass this thinking on. To my kids, and to as many people as I can humanly reach, which is a lot.

That’s why Me, Mummy & I was born, a concept that suggests that motherhood boosts your growth in every way possible. I want to tell everyone that they can have it all when they think unlimitedly.

Start with easy love. For your coffee, for the two legs you have, for your food. For the birds you hear singing playfully in the morning, for the vibrant pops of colour that you see out of your window. Then, challenge yourself — show love to those who have hurt you, for your bank account no matter how much is in there, for your partner during an argument.

Look for good and it will always be there.

Wake up every day knowing this no matter what. Know this just like how you know that the sky is blue. Embody this, and I’m telling you, you’ll create a force like no other that will push you as far as you want to go, and then some.

You got this.